I have heard the expression “emotional maturity” no fewer than two times in the last couple of days. Just this morning I had a quite emotional response to some very small discussion that my wife and I were having. Before I knew it, it was all very “whoa, where is this coming from?” And just last night I’d been thinking about having repeatedly hearing about “emotional maturity” and wondering, had I achieved it? In my 34 years, am I anywhere near emotional maturity. I thought I got my answer this morning. And it was a resounding “No”.
That was how I felt anyway. But I do think that coming to recognize these responses for what they are – emotional – and not labeling them as immature per se, is part of the process of learning about oneself and one’s inner emotional landscape. Sure I am 34, but it can take a lifetime. That’s part of why we have the time we have. And learning these things, and making the effort to understand their implications, learning how to map out an intelligent path forward from such feelings is part of the process of emotional maturation.
And I believe that this recognition is an extension of the yogic experience of being able to observe one’s thoughts as though watching a film during deep meditation. My emotion this morning stemmed from being frustrated with myself in regard to certain idiosyncrasies that are a part of my personality when trying to explain simple ideas sometimes. It is a part of my personality but it is not a part of my true nature. A personality, like the body is shed from life to life. It is inconstant. It is fleeting. It almost literally has nothing to do with me when you think of the very large picture. Except for the fact that our thoughts and actions in their wake form impressions which we take with us in said “life-to-life.” So I managed to see this thing that frustrates me about myself – for what it is, in a yogic point of view today, and let the frustration pass.
I don’t expect a lot of this to makes sense to everyone reading. But I wanted to throw that out there to let some of you know I am still here, and also just to say that emotions are human. They are “okay”. It is what we do with them that matters. That is the true measure of you as a man or woman.
Jai Hari Aum