As anyone paying attention to the news in the U.S. will know, the Supreme Court is currently deliberating over the constitutional basis of same-sex marriage. Right now the issue is in the hands of the nine Ladies and Gentlemen of the highest court in the land. But I tend to think that, like the long civil rights struggle that really finally came to a head in the 1960s, this one is likely to go on for a while in one form or another.
While contemplating this landmark case recently, something occurred to me that seemed so subtle that it almost seemed too trite to write about, yet so stunning that I cannot help but do so.
I think that real change is only possible when the powers that be come to realize that the people demanding said change are not only those directly and personally affected by it. In this case, not just people in same-sex relationships who wish to marry and have the same rights and benefits as a married couple as the rest of us, and not just their friends and family. Real change can only happen when it is heard loud and clear that people with no vested interest in the issue one way or another also demand the change. This is a selfless service to mankind we all can offer. And I am not convinced that this aspect of the call for change is really being heard.
Being of a minority group myself, a “person with a disability” I understand the feeling of one’s wishes, needs, and hopes being marginalized. But in terms of the vast population of people who want to see the same changes in the world as they do, homosexuals are not in the minority, I am sure.
I think many of us have family members or friends or both who are gay. As society at large becomes a safer place for them to freely be who they are, more and more heterosexuals’ lives will be touched by the issue. More and more will feel about it how many of us already do.
That it is time for real change.
But right now, if our representatives are hearing it loud and clear that we, whose own lives are not impacted one way or the other by any laws they make, care enough to write them and tell them that we demand freedom for everyone, then real change is inevitable. I honestly believe that is the threshold. This is the point at which the snowball will become unstoppable.
And this effort should not be undertaken for the fear of being “on the wrong side of history”, i.e., out of fear of being marginalized. History has a strong pull one way or the other anyway, depending on collective consciousness at the time. The effort should be undertaken based on the truth we feel in our hearts. Nor should we claim we are “doing God’s will.” When that is the stance taken by both sides in any debate, no progress will ever be made as no ground will ever be given.
Please pass this on, because regardless of how the Supreme Court rules, there will be much work to be done in your own state on the issue. If you are from outside the U.S., it is just as likely that there is still work to be done on this issue in your nation. I urge you all to write your representatives and tell them under no uncertain terms that this issue is not a gay issue. It is an issue facing mankind at this moment. It is a fight we all play a part on. Either on the side of reason and compassion and love, or we can take the other side. But we cannot be a conscientious objector. We must play a part.
Peace. Liberty. Victory!